Getting Engaged?

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It finally happened – you found the one. 

Congratulations on getting ready to take this step in your relationship! At KAY, we’re here to help. Planning a proposal and buying an engagement ring can be intimidating, but don’t worry. We’ve got you covered. If you’re ready to get engaged, below are some basics get you started. 

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If the Ring Fits...

Finding the correct ring size before buying an engagement ring is important yet often overlooked. This is because it’s difficult to discover their ring size without giving away proposal plans. Here are some tips and tricks to help you with this critical step. 

  • Use Another Ring: Your partner probably doesn’t wear a ring on their left ring finger, but their right ring finger is often similar in size. Bring a ring they wear on that finger to a KAY store for sizing. You could also print out our ring size chart and get an idea of the size yourself. 

  • Enlist a Friend: Friends and family can be your strongest allies. Collaborate with a friend to investigate ring sizing on a shopping trip. Or have a family member say they need the size for a gift idea. 

  • Just Ask: You want the proposal to be a surprise, but you’ve likely at least talked about your future together. So just ask their ring size! The details of how you propose can still be your little secret. 

Check out our full guide on finding her ring size!
Couple getting engaged in the winter outside

Shhh! It's a Surprise!

If you’re thinking about proposing to your significant other, you probably want it to be a surprise. Keeping this secret is difficult, so here are some tips for making sure your proposal is a surprise. 

  • Keep Things Offline: If you want to invite family and friends to participate in the proposal, do it face-to-face. This reduces the chances of your partner seeing an invite or text on your phone or someone else’s. 

  • Don’t Tell Aunt Karen: Every family has someone who can’t keep a secret. It might feel rude to leave them out of the loop, but it’s worth it to keep the secret safe. 

  • If You Live with Your Significant Other, don’t have information about the ring sent to the house or apartment. If you order the ring online, it can be shipped to your nearest KAY store. This way your partner won’t get suspicious or accidentally open the package. 

Talk about Money

Time to Talk Money

How much do engagement rings cost? Buying an engagement ring can be pricey, so sticking to a budget is important as you start your life together. Here are some tips for budgeting your engagement ring purchase. 

  • Bring Out the Calculator: Add up expenses such as car payments, phone bills, and other monthly costs you have. Then, you can see how much you have to work with, which will determine what you can spend. 

  • Look Into Financing Options: Spreading out a purchase can be a great way to spend a bit more without blowing your budget. At KAY, we offer special financing – a good option to explore when you’re considering buying an engagement ring. 

  • Save Up: This is pretty self-explanatory. Once you know the price of your ring, set aside what you can until you’re ready to purchase. 

What is her style?

Discover Their Style

How do you know what kind of engagement ring your significant other will like? To buy an engagement ring that fits their style, notice the details. 

  • What Kind of Clothes Do They Wear? If they tend to wear bold patterns and bright colors, they might like a gemstone or black diamond ring. If they prefer classic looks or neutral tones, they might like a more traditional engagement ring. Solitaire or three-stone styles would be a good place to start. 

  • What Are They Drawn To? Social media can be a huge help during this process. Check out their Pinterest account to see if they have a wedding board or anything for jewelry in general. 

  • Be Bold: Just ask! Yes, it could alert them to what’s coming, but finding a ring they’ll love is worth the potential hint. 

Couple getting engaged at a ice skating rink with a KAY engagement ring

Plan the Big Moment

Grand gesture or candlelit dinner? Invite family and friends, or share a private moment? There are so many things to consider when planning the day of your proposal.  

  • Choose a Date: Before anything else, set the date for when you’re going to pop the question. This way, you know if you need to make any special arrangements. Your relationship should be the main focus of the day of your engagement. It might be a good idea to choose a unique day rather than a holiday, birthday, or otherwise significant date. 

  • Pick a Venue: You know your partner well, so use that to find a location that will be special to them. They may have even dropped some hints. The main consideration is whether they would enjoy a public proposal or something more intimate with just you two. 

  • Choose Accomplices: To make sure everything goes perfectly, involve close relatives or friends to assist you with your proposal plan. 

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Got the ring? Now get the wedding bands!