Getting Engaged?

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It's finally happened - you found the one.

Congratulations on getting ready to take this next big step in your relationship! At KAY, we're here to help you every step of the way. Planning a proposal and buying an engagement ring can be intimidating - but don't worry - we've got you covered. If you're ready to get engaged but not sure where to start, below are some basics you'll want to figure out before the big moment.

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If the Ring Fits...

You just proposed, your significant other said yes, and they go to slip on the ring. But wait, it won't fit! Finding out the correct ring size before buying an engagement ring might seem obvious, but it's an important detail that's often overlooked because it can be difficult to discover without giving away your proposal plans. Here are some tricks for figuring out the ring size before getting engaged.

  • Use Another Ring  Chances are your partner doesn't wear a ring on their left ring finger, but their right ring finger is often similar in size. Bring a ring they wear on that finger to a KAY store for sizing or print out our ring size chart and get an idea of the size yourself.
  • Enlist a Friend  Friends and family can be your strongest allies. Collaborate with a friend to investigate ring sizing on a shopping trip, or have a family member say they need the size for a gift idea.
  • Just Ask  You want the proposal to be a surprise, but you've likely at least talked about your future together. So just ask their size! The details of how you propose can still be your little secret.
Check out our full guide on finding her ring size!
Couple getting engaged in the winter outside

Shhh! It's a Surprise!

Chances are if you're thinking about getting engaged and proposing, you're imagining it as a surprise. We all know how difficult it is to keep a secret, so here are a couple of our best tips for making sure your proposal is a surprise.

  • Keep Things Offline  If you're planning on inviting family and friends to take part in the proposal, do it face-to-face. This reduces the chance of your significant other accidentally glancing at an invite on their best friend's phone, or seeing an email come through on your computer that gives everything away.
  • Don't Tell Aunt Karen  Every family has someone who can't keep a secret. It might feel rude to leave them out of the loop, but if it means your secret is safe, it's well worth it.
  • If You Live with Your Significant Other,  don't have any information regarding the ring sent to the house. If you decide to order the ring online, it can be shipped to your nearest KAY store so you don't have to worry about your partner getting suspicious or opening the package.

Talk about Money

Time to Talk Money

How much do engagement rings cost? Buying an engagement ring can cost a pretty penny, so sticking to a budget is a necessity and a great practice for when you start your life together. Here are some tips for budgeting your engagement ring purchase.

  • Break Out the Calculator  Add up your monthly expenses such as car payments, phone bills and all the other monthly commitments you have. Once you've got it added up, you can see how much wiggle room you have to work with, which will determine what you can spend.
  • Look Into Financing Options  Spreading out a purchase can be a great way to spend a bit more without blowing your budget. At KAY we offer special financing - a great option to explore when you're considering buying an engagement ring.
  • Save Up  This one is pretty self-explanatory. Once you're ready to get engaged, have a ring in mind and know the price, set aside what you can until you're ready to purchase.
What is her style?

Discover Their Style

How do you know what kind of engagement ring your significant other will like? To buy an engagement ring that fits their style, notice the details.

  • What Kind of Clothes Do They Wear?  If they tend to wear bold patterns and bright colors, they might like something unique, like a gemstone or black diamond ring. If they prefer classic looks with neutral tones and standard prints, it might be a good idea to check out more traditional engagement ring styles, such as a solitaire or three-stone ring.
  • What are They Drawn To?  Social media can be a huge help during this process. Check out their Pinterest account to see if they have a board for wedding ideas or even jewelry in general. This can give you an idea of what metal colors, gemstone shapes, and ring styles they might like.
  • This Option is for the Bold  Just ask! Yes, it could alert them to what's coming, but finding a ring they'll love is worth the potential hint that you're ready to get engaged.

Couple getting engaged at a ice skating rink with a KAY engagement ring

Plan the Big Moment

Grand gesture or candlelit dinner? Invite family and friends, or share a private moment? There are so many things to consider when planning the day of your proposal.

  • Choose a Date  Before anything else, set the date for when you're going to pop the question. This way, you know if you need to make any special arrangements. Your relationship should be the main focus on the day of your engagement. It might be a good idea to choose a unique day rather than a holiday, birthday or otherwise significant date.
  • Pick a Venue  This can be a tough call, but you know enough about your partner to think of a location that would be special to them. They may have even dropped some hints. The main consideration here is whether they would enjoy somewhere more intimate with just the two of you, or if they'd love to accept your proposal in public.
  • Choose Accomplices  To make sure everything about the big day goes off without a hitch, involve some of their closest relatives or friends to assist you in the perfect plan.

Two women

Got the ring? Now get the wedding bands!