How to Get Engaged

Whether you want to proclaim your love in front of the whole world or make it an intimate moment between just the two of you, your proposal is one of the most important steps in your relationship. It's the first sign that you're ready to take things to the next level, and it's an agreement to spend the rest of your lives together. Getting engaged is a momentous occasion... but it doesn't have to be overwhelming.

We've all heard about the guy who hires a plane to fly a "Marry Me" banner across the sky. Or the surprise scavenger hunt that ends with him down on one knee. And perhaps that's your style. But no matter what method you choose, there are a few key factors that should take place before you pop the question.

First, if she's a traditional girl, a small chat with her father may be in order. Obtain his blessing and you'll score some points with the big guy... and your sweetheart.

Next, you pick out the ring.... Ah, yes, the engagement ring. This is where the fun begins. If you've been discussing marriage, your future fiancée may have some helpful insight to give you. Go shopping for engagement rings together and ask what style she likes the best. But if you feel like you're flying blind in the engagement ring department, don't worry... she may be giving you more signs than you think.

Choosing the perfect engagement ring starts with the jewelry metal. Is the jewelry she wears mostly yellow or white? Selecting a ring setting that matches the metal she normally wears will ensure that it suits her personal taste.

Now for the actual diamond. Eighty percent of brides-to-be receive a diamond engagement ring... those are pretty safe odds. The most popular choice is a diamond solitaire ring with a single diamond beautifully cradled in a precious metal setting. Since you know she'll be showing it off, you'll want to learn a little bit about the 4Cs of diamonds before making a decision.

Like jewelry metal, diamond shape is a personal preference. But as a guideline, round brilliant-cut diamonds are by far the most popular. This classic cut has been developed over hundreds of years to best feature a diamond's fire, sparkle and brilliance. Is she more contemporary than classic? Try princess-cut, a square cut diamond with a more modern look.

The good news is, down the road, you can always add on to a diamond solitaire ring with an enhancer or diamond anniversary band, (See, your first two anniversary gifts are already covered!). But if you want a little more sparkle from the get-go, perhaps choosing a diamond engagement ring with multiple stones is best. A three-stone diamond ring features three diamonds... one to symbolize your past, one for your present and one for your future together. How's that for romance?

Okay, so you've got the parental blessing, you've decided on the perfect engagement ring, now you just need the When and the Where. If you're planning something extravagant, then good for you! But the perfect proposal can be simple too. Finding the right time and place can be as easy as a romantic dinner on the anniversary of your first date. (Just try not to put the ring in her food... it loses some sparkle when it's covered in bits of grilled salmon.)

Now, it's time. It's okay to be nervous before you pop the question. You may want to practice what you plan on saying, but keep it simple. Just tell her you love her, put the ring on her finger and wait for her to say, "Yes!"